Go Along to Get Along

I used to be guilty of this, going along with people when I really didn't want to, so they would like me. Now a new study says, don't do it.

According to newswise.com, the study, co-authored by Semin Park, a workplace conflict expert at the University of Iowa, a worker is more apt to find success by speaking up and expressing disagreement.

when they're with their own team. That's because members of a team are usually more willing to listen.

Another time it may be okay to speak up is when you can be specific. People are more apt to listen to others who offer specific information about a conflict instead of just a vague comment with little detail, the website points out.

Here's one more way you can get people to go along, the study says. Don't bring something up more than once or twice; you become the squeaky wheel.

Because we are social animals, a significant part of our lives is based on interactions with others, says betterup, a blog on business. The site goes on to say this is true whether we are in school together, work on the same team, or simply live in the same neighborhood. Our ability to get along with others can help us succeed both personally and professionally.

"In our professional lives, having one or more friends at work has been shown to have tremendous benefits, to you and to your company," betterup continues. The site claims that women with a best friend at work are more likely to have a positive experience during the day, including enjoying what they do and being recognized for success. "They are more engaged at work, so they are willing to go above and beyond in their roles, and may take greater risks that lead to innovation. Not to mention, when you spend more of your waking hours at work than you do at home, it’s nice to have a strong connection with someone who understands you personally and professionally."

So how do you get along with everyone? Let's face it. There are always people you may not feel a connection with, or even dislike. Experts say to let the little things go, and try to find something you have in common with or like, about the other person.